Why is it that people think that healers act like we’re entitled?
Yep. This is gonna be a rant. But you don’t come here for anything less.
I am tired of people telling me, when I do random instances (which admittedly, isn’t often)- whether I’m healing or DPS- that healers act like people owe them something. People are making healers out to be the Millennials of the WoW universe. Now, I will admit, there have been instances where this has been the case. But in the great, overwhelming majority of cases, healers don’t think you owe them anything.
Why do I heal? Because I love it. Because its fun. Because its engaging. Because I don’t have to constantly look at Recount or Skada to makes sure I’m pulling enough DPS (this is the real reason- I hate comparing myself on the DPS charts. Even if I’m at the top.) Because healing is how I want to play my game (except in PvP- Frost Mage all the way there.) And it takes quite a lot to get me to say something in party or raid or instance chat- I mostly try to be helpful, especially if I have done the fight before.
But there is always a point of no return- a point that I have learned to recognize early on. There is a point where I realize that “this isn’t working and it probably won’t.” And that’s usually when I start seeing the “stop acting like a privileged brat,” and “blame the healers for not healing through that,” and “bad heals.”
And we hit the heart of the matter. Ultimately, no matter what else happens, healers are almost always the first people to be blamed when things go wrong (that or tanks.) And so, this has engendered a knee-jerk reaction in healers to defend themselves. It makes sense- no one likes to be wrong, and human nature demands that we defend ourselves from most sorts of attack. But this seems to be the way of things- things go wrong, healers get blamed, and chat blows up. Healers are so used to having all of the wrongs and mistakes and wipes blamed on them that we have started preempting the blame game. And that makes us look like we’re spoiled brats.
We aren’t. We really aren’t. We’re just tired of being jumped on for shit that isn’t our fault. You would be, too.
So, instead of jumping on one particular role, why don’t you stop and figure out what went wrong. Its a game. No one’s going to crucify you if you make a mistake. No one’s going to shun you if you admit it. I admit when I make mistakes (read: I facepulled Gruul on Heroic once. I was actually hilarious, I hit him with my wand and he punched me in the face so hard i swear I reset the instance.)
This is easy to solve- be kind to strangers. Be excellent to each other. Be understanding. People make mistakes. And remember- we’re all here to have fun. No one likes being blamed for the group’s failure. No one likes being ridiculed for making a mistake. We are all people behind the screen, it’s really not that hard to be respectful. So remember, the next time you call your healer an entitled brat that you’re addressing a person, not a bunch of pixels. And that you will probably receive no heals for the remainder of the time we have together. I do have a reputation to uphold as an Angry Healer.